83 Motivational Quotes from Unfu*k Yourself by Gary John Bishop
Unfu*k Yourself by Gary John Bishop is an interesting book filled with valuable pieces of advice.This book is especially for those who think of themselves as losers or have not achieved their dreams yet.
Here are the quotes:
''The
language you use to describe your circumstances determines how you see,
experience and participate in them and dramatically affect how you deal with
your life and confront problems both big and small.''
''Negative
self-talk can not only put us in a bad mood, it can leave us feeling helpless.
It can make small problems seem bigger – and even create problems where none
existed before. Here’s the breaking news, your self-talk is fucking you over
and in ways you can’t even begin to imagine.''
''The
more you tell yourself how hard something is, the harder it will actually seem.''
''If
you’re sometimes talking about how ‘unfair’ life is, you’ll start to act according
to that view, perceiving slights where none exist or, as studies have shown,
putting less effort into your work because you’ve already determined it won’t
accomplish anything. The unfair view will quickly become your reality.''
''It’s
entirely within our power to determine how we think about and talk about our
problems. They can be a nuisance or a stepping stone. They can hold us down or
lift us up.''
''People
spend their lives waiting for the cavalry, all the while never realizing they
are the cavalry. Your life is waiting on you to finally show
up.''
''We
can determine our emotions by steering our thoughts. We can shape those thoughts
by being conscious of and diligent about our words and the kind of language we
engage in. A lot of this will come down to your basic tolerance of your current
mindset and your willingness to change it.''
''No
matter how difficult, challenging, or pressing life’s circumstances can be, how
you fundamentally relate to and engage with those circumstances will
have the biggest say in how they turn out. Again, the answer is inside you rather
than outside you.''
''How
we talk, think about, and therefore perceive our surroundings is the very
foundation for our reality. Create the reality you want to live in by beginning
the process of having the kind of conversations, (with yourself and others),
that actually shape that reality. A simple way that I re-frame my own everyday
‘problems’ is by relating to them as opportunities. They instantly become items
in my life that I use to educate and expand myself. I become curious and
engaged with them rather than my usual default annoyed and frustrated self!''
''The
physiological and psychological impact of using in-the-moment, assertive language
is not only powerful, it has a very real in-the-moment effect. There’s a massive
difference between, ‘I am relentless’ and, ‘I will be relentless’. One of those
statements intervenes in this moment of your life, the other lives more like a
description of what’s to come rather than what’s here. All of this will require
you to try out assertive speaking in your daily life and catch yourself when you’re
using the more general narrative kind of speaking.''
''There is no greater knowledge
than the knowledge you have verified for yourself, in your own experience.''
“Stop
blaming luck. Stop blaming other people. Stop pointing to outside influences
or circumstances.”
''If you’re not willing to take
the actions to change your situation – in other words, if you’re willing
to put up with your
situation – then whether you like it or not, that is the life you have chosen.''
''The
true measure of who you are won’t be found in your circumstances but rather the
way in which you respond to them.''
''You must first accept that
while there are things have happened in your life that you had no say in, you
are 100% responsible for what you do with your life in the aftermath of those
events.
Always, every time, no excuses.''
''willingness
is missing in your life. Not some wispy,sheepish willingness but rather a bold
willingness, the kind of willing state where you are ready for what’s next and
ready to act on it. Willingness to change, willingness to let go, willingness
to accept. Real, magical, inspired willingness.''
''Either you control your
destiny, or your destiny will control you. Life won’t stop for your pauses and
procrastinations. It won’t stop for your confusion or fear. It will continue
right along without you. Whether you play an active part or not, the show will
go on.''
''Are
you willing to stop living the life you have and start living the life you’re
after? It ALL begins with the emergence of willingness, that liquid,constantly
expanding and contracting state where life springs and cedes—and all of it is
within you at the flick of a linguistic switch.''
''We often view ourselves as
procrastinators or lazy or unmotivated. When in reality, we’re simply
unwilling. We put things off or avoid them completely because we tell ourselves
we just don’t want to do it or that we can’t do it.''
“Where
the willingness is great, the difficulties cannot be
great”.
''It
does not matter what you’re facing in life, which obstacle you’re trying to
overcome – if you are willing to generate that state
of willingness, that’s your doorway to making the effort,
taking the steps, dealing with the setbacks, and ultimately creating the
progress and change in your life that
you’re seeking.That’s why such a simple statement – ‘I am willing’ – is so
profound. You become enlivened and empowered by its promise, open to its
allure.
I
ask again: are you willing?''
''Are
you willing to find a new job? Yes. ‘I am willing.’ Are you willing to stay in
a job you hate? No. ‘I am unwilling’.Both assertions can be just as effective.
It’s up to you to determine which one fits your persona and situation. Which
one 'does it' for you?''
''If
you really want those things [nice car, clothes, body etc], then go get them!
Begin today, lay out your strategy, deal with your reality and, most
importantly, take the actions required and take them often! But
if you’re not willing to work an extra 10 or 20 hours a week just to drive to work
in a BMW instead of a Honda, give up the complete waste of precious headspace
to yearn for it. Stop pretending to yourself. Deal with your unwillingness to
take on the kind of actions accomplishing those things would require and accept
that you have been bullshitting yourself. You’ll have a lot more capacity for
loving the life you actually do have and create some room to begin striving for
the things you actually want in life.''
''Most of the time, the task
we’re actually facing is a lot simpler than we think it is. The problem is, we
usually don’t take the time to really look at it. Some of the things we face
certainly can be challenging, but at the same time what’s on the other side of those
challenges is a life of our dreams.''
''When
you start to view the world through the lens of what you’re willing and unwilling
to pursue, rather than what it seems you want and don’t want, things start to
become a lot clearer.Instead of wasting time worrying about the things other
people have, you’ll start focusing on what’s really important to you and your
life. You’ll realize that once you
replace envy, lust, and desire with a willingness to change your life for the better,
things really start to take shape.''
''You’ll
realize that when you’re willing to do
what it takes, nothing else matters.You won’t put off the things you’re
truly willing to do. You won’t neglect the responsibilities you took on because
you will feel the strong sense of willingness to do them.Willingness. It’s the
lifeblood of the new, the infinite well of possibility and potential, a state
where new futures arise and a whole new you can begin.''
''Ask yourself ‘am I willing?’
over and over until you can hear it, first thing in the morning, last thing at
night, while you’re driving, while in the shower, ‘Am I willing?’ Ask, ask, ask
until a resounding YES echoes through your consciousness. I AM WILLING! I ask
you again, ‘Are you willing?’. ''
''Our thoughts are so powerful
that they are constantly pushing you toward your goals, even when you don’t
realize what those goals actually are!
Your brain is wired to win.''
''The
path you follow through life is the one dictated by your deepest, most
inconspicuous thoughts. Your brain is constantly pushing you along that
path,whether it’s the one you would consciously choose to take or not.''
''Can’t
seem to increase your income? Can’t seem to lose weight? Have you considered
the subconscious, concealed beliefs about your income and your weight that may
be driving your action (or lack of it)? You automatically relate to yourself as
belonging to a certain economic class, with a certain level of fitness, and
your actions serve to keep you in place, right where you’re most familiar to
yourself.''
''Believe
it or not, it’s not necessarily any harder to make $60k than it is $30k.You may
think it is, but that’s not an absolute.''
''We hold a certain belief about
ourselves or life that we prove right time and time again through our everyday
actions. Those beliefs uncannily turn out to be deadly accurate in our reality.
Spinning your wheels? What are you out to prove there?
‘I’m
not worthy of love’, ‘I’m not smart’, ‘I’m a failure’, I’m not as capable as I
used to be’. With these kinds of repeats stuck in your subconscious, is it any wonder
that you are masterful in consistently proving them right? To succeed in another,
more positive way, you’d have to prove those firmly held beliefs WRONG! For
your persona, that’s a ground-shaking idea that is almost too much to bear. It
would in fact unsettle the very foundations of who you have become! ''
''If you’re struggling to get
work done, perhaps you believe that you’re incapable or lazy. You prove that
idea every single time you pause or procrastinate. You’re proving to yourself
and others that you really are that person.''
''The
Stoic philosopher Seneca once said,
‘It
is the power of the mind to be unconquerable’.
Right
now, your mind is unconquerable when it
comes to proving that you’re not worthy of love, that you’re lazy, or that
you’ll always be out of shape or never have any money.But if we change our
thinking a little, we can use our mind’s unconquerable nature to act on all the
positive goals and dreams we hold for ourselves. We are wired
to win –
we just have to point ourselves in the right direction so we can win at something we consciously
choose.''
''We
are wired to win. You are wired to win. Define your game, embrace the challenge
and strive to understand yourself in deeper and more meaningful ways.''
''The
thing is, the negative experiences we have rarely stay contained to that one
issue. They spread.
Like a toxic chemical, they seep into all aspects of our lives. If you’re
having financial trouble, you’ll either consciously or subconsciously stress
about it at dinner, which means you don’t enjoy our meal. You start feeling on
edge around family. You feel resentful toward your spouse and distant from your
children. You’re annoyed when your dog barks or when your neighbors make too
much noise. Little things like traffic and long lines begin prompting your
frustration.''
''Everyone
has their problems, and life isn’t always perfect. It never will be. It wasn’t
2,400 years ago, when Socrates was around, and it certainly isn’t today. But if
we’re being brutally honest with ourselves, we’ll realize that our own problems
are pretty insignificant compared to the rest of the world’s. Really.Think
about it.If you’re reading this, chances are your life isn’t as hard as a child
in Somalia or an Untouchable in India. Chances are your problems are pretty
small in comparison to the ones people had when Socrates was born in 470 BC,
before modern medicine or electricity or cars or laws to protect public safety
existed.''
''We only see the highlight reels
of others’ lives while being continually reminded of our own behind the scenes.''
''Get
connected to your reality, your real life instead of your emotionally soaked
self-talk narrative about your life.''
''Remember
all the problems you faced – and eventually overcame. A lot of them may be very
similar to what you’re dealing with today.You probably felt a lot of the same
emotions back then, too. You thought you’d never get over your ex, that you’d
never find a better job, or that you wouldn’t live through the humiliation of
some situation.But you did. You raised up and kicked on and, looking back, some
of those problems might even seem a
little silly now….Even the more serious problems probably seem a lot different
today. After all, you did make it through them, and they ultimately helped
shape and form who you are today.''
''The
future can have truly great things in store for you.''
''In this life, you’ll sometimes
have to do things you don’t want to, with people you don’t like, and in places
you don’t care for. People will leave your life as quickly and easily as they
come into it. You’ll lose money, things will break, and your dog will die.But
you’ll get through it all, the good and the bad, just like you did in the past.''
''Your
boat hasn’t and won’t sink so easily. There may be some waves, you might go
through some storms, and you’ll probably end up seasick from time to time,but
your journey across that ocean we call life will continue.''
''Face your problems as they
come, one by one, give them the attention they need and move on. Bundling them
all together into a morass of confusion and letting them overwhelm you just
won’t help. It takes precision, patience and discipline of thought. Work
through each item pragmatically and with a solution in mind.Remember, everything
is
solve-able, and if you can’t see a solution, it only means you haven’t worked
it out yet.''
''your
current problems are just another bump in the road.''
''You can handle this. It’s not
going to kill you. Your life isn’t over. You’ve got plenty more left in the
tank. Plenty.''
''Our
aversion to risk, which was once necessary, no longer is.
Those
same survival instincts that once kept us alive can now be the very thing that
keeps us from actually living.''
''Our obsession with certainty
can be tragic and counterproductive for two reasons.First, uncertainty is where
things happen. Uncertainty is your personal pathway to opportunity. It’s the environment
in which you grow, experience new things and produce new, unprecedented
results. Uncertainty is where new
happens.''
''How
will you ever get a raise if you don’t take the risk of asking? How will you get
ahead in your career if you’re always holding on to certainty and comfort? You
won’t. Success is never certain. It never comes without risk. Even if you’re the
smartest or the hardest working, there’s no guarantee of anything.''
''Missing the target isn’t the
worst thing you can do. Not taking the shot is.''
''You
may look at successful people and think they’ve always had it figured out.Many
of them seem to have a kind of confidence, charisma or talent that makes everything
they do seem easy. They certainly seem to have something you don’t,but believe
me, their rise to the top was anything but certain or easy. Most of them
doubted it every single day, sometimes hundreds of times per day….They didn’t succeed because they were
certain they were going to succeed; They succeeded because they didn’t let
uncertainty stop them. They did it anyway.They ignored their doubts and kept
pushing forward. They were relentless when the only thing they had to fuel
them was relentlessness.''
''If
you want to do something truly great, you’ll have to accept that some people
are going to think you’re delusional or an idiot or righteous.''
''What causes most of your worry
is trying to predict the future and then refusing to accept things when they
don’t or aren’t going to go your way….Focus on the things you can control and
release yourself from worrying about what you can’t.''
''You
are not defined by what’s inside your head. You are what you do. Your actions.''
''Most
of us let our internal condition weigh heavily on what we do. But the truly great
performers are great precisely because they’ve learned to experience those feelings
while side stepping the inclination to act upon them.It’s not that they never
doubt themselves or never have a desire to procrastinate or avoid a particular
situation. It’s not that they always ‘feel’ like doing what they should.
They
simply focus and lean in. They act anyway.''
''You don’t have to feel like
today is your day,you just have to act like it is.''
''While your thoughts can become
your reality, it’s only
through your
actions that your thoughts actually become your life. Until then, they are only thoughts.''
''The
next time you’re feeling or experiencing any sort of negative or diminishing thought
that disempowers you, move on immediately. Act independently of that thought.
More specifically, act in a way that’s in your best interests rather than in a
way that is dominated by how you automatically think and feel. Each time will be
better than the last until your mind wakes up and realizes, 'Hey, I can do
this.I’m learning!' ''
''Do
you think Gandhi or Rosa Parks or Abraham Lincoln were never gripped by thoughts
of doubt, fear or uncertainty? How about Nikola Tesla or Steve Jobs?Do you
seriously think those people woke up every day in the perfect mood with
‘everything’s coming up roses’, playing in their heads? HELL NO! They were wracked
by the same kind of shit you are, but they acted ANYWAY.''
''It’s
all about action. Going out there, doing it and taking all your negative bullshit
along for the ride. It’s never going to get any better, any easier or any more
understandable. This is it, life is now and you’re never going to have a better
moment than this.''
“Our
biggest successes are born out of discomfort, uncertainty, and risk.”
''At
this point, when you don’t know whether you’re up or down, how far you have
to go or how far you’ve come, there’s only one thing that can keep you going.That
thing is relentlessness. The momentum to keep moving and moving and moving, no
matter what happens.''
''True
relentlessness comes when the only thing you have left is relentlessness. When
it seems all is lost and all hope and evidence for success has long since
vanished, relentlessness is the fuel that drives you through.''
''The
most successful among us got to where they are today because they transcended
obstacles.But that’s easier said than done. It’s one thing to say ‘never give
up’ (I fucking hate bumper sticker-slogans), but quite another to actually put
relentlessness into your life’s most worthy causes.''
''The
world doesn’t stop you from succeeding;you’re
not that big of a deal. The universe is neither conspiring for nor against you,
and the only thing that stops you is when you buy into the notion that you are
stopped. Then, my friend, you really are stopped.''
''Don’t be fooled by the
self-help bullshit that tells you “You deserve
it!” Because you don’t. No one does. That conversation will leave you
waiting and wanting and eventually a complete victim to your own life.
Sometimes you just have to grind it out, stake your claim and hustle for what
you want. You will need to quite literally make
it happen.''
''The
only question is whether you agree with what you can and cannot do. An opinion
only becomes true when you accept it and stop acting on your potential.''
''The
key to becoming relentless is to focus on the problem in front of you. Give it your
full attention. Become someone who progresses even when all seems lost.The
answer is always out there; all you need to do is find it.Then
you can move forward to your next obstacle. And you give that obstacle your
full attention until it’s taken care of. Then there’s the next and the next and
the next.By doing this, you never have to wonder where you’re going. You’re not
worried about how many miles you have left to walk. You become someone who
loves obstacles rather than avoids them because obstacles are your keys to
success and growth. You simply take one step at a time.''
''When you’re not sure if you’re
following the right path, when you’ve been knocked down a few too many times,
it’s completely fine to get discouraged,hell; even defeated. What’s not ok is
to stop.Because you can always lean on relentlessness.
When you have nothing else,you have relentlessness.Rather than worrying about
whether you should keep going or turn back, press in relentlessly.
Relentlessness has one direction, and that’s forward. It only has one option,
and that’s to keep the momentum going.''
''There
is no giving up. There is no quitting. There is no changing of plans.''
''Sit
up, straighten your spine and repeat after me: 'I am relentless'.''
''Your
pain, anguish,disappointment (or whatever your thing is), is greater in the
areas where the gap is widest between what you expected and what you actually
have. In there are your hidden expectations. Do the work here until you fully
uncover the expectations you had inadvertently set yourself up for……Your
problems don’t derail you, your hidden expectations do!''
''CUT
IT OUT! Let go of those expectations NOW!
It’s
much more powerful to come to terms with life’s unpredictability and to engage
with your circumstances for what they actually are than get bogged down by your
refusal to let go of unnecessary or unproductive expectations.''
''The
next time you catch yourself getting brought down by your expectations,shift
things in a different direction. Instead of getting your knickers in a twist about
how things didn’t turn out the way you wanted or expected them to,simply accept
them for what they are. In that moment you are now freed up to deal with them.''
''Instead of silently expecting
something and feeling slighted when it doesn’t happen, let go of that
expectation. If there’s something you want, how about asking for it with no
expectation? And when you do something positive or generous, do it because you
genuinely want to rather than loading in the added weight of what you expect in
return.That game of tit for tat only
hurts you both in the long run.''
''People
are always going to lie, steal, cheat, and everything else one can imagine.It’s
just not connected to reality to live in the expectation that they somehow won’t
and then throw a hissy fit when they do it anyway. Remember, in those cases,
you always end up worse off than they do! Much worse!You end up sticking
yourself with resentment, regret, anger or frustration.Remember, they’re not
doing that to you, you’re doing that part to yourself! ''
''when you make a plan, what do
you have to gain from being welded to the expectations inherent in it? Nothing.
When you are free from its expectations you are “in a dance” with life where
you can simply execute the plan, and deal with what happens.If it succeeds, you can
celebrate. If it fails, you can re-calibrate.
Don’t expect
victory or
defeat. Plan for victory, learn from defeat.''
''Love
the life you have, not the one you expected to have.''
''If
you want your life to be different, you have to make it happen. All of the thinking
or meditating or planning or anti-anxiety medication in the world isn’t going
to improve your life if you’re not willing to go out and take action and make
changes. You can’t sit around waiting for the right mood to strike to for life
to play out the way you want it to. Nor can you rely on positive thinking alone
to transform things for the better. You have to go out and do.''
''Future you is not going to
regret a lack of achievement or the absence of any one thing in your life. The
only thing you will regret is not trying.Not striving. Not pushing
through when the going got tough.''
''You
won’t regret not making a million dollars, you’ll regret never starting that business
or quitting that lousy job. You won’t regret not marrying a supermodel,you’ll
regret staying in that dead-end relationship when you knew you could do better.
You won’t regret not looking like a bodybuilder, you’ll regret stopping at the
drive thru every night on your way home and living a lie.And this will happen
to you. You will die. You will go through all of that on your own….Unless you
take the action that’s needed to change, to build the life you want,the life
you can be proud of.''
''Nothing will hold you back, if
you want it enough and act on it enough.''
GramSave f you’re experiencing a difficult day and you need a boost to reassure yourself that it’s all going to be okay or if you’re simply seeking a goal statement for your day These inspiring quotations will inspire you to get one foot over the other and take the changes,
ReplyDelete